Senior Pastor of Dunamis International Gospel Centre, Dr. Paul Enenche, has triggered widespread discussion after advising husbands against relying on their wives’ higher income to run their families.
Speaking during a recent church service, Enenche addressed marriages where the wife earns far more than the husband, insisting that responsibility and leadership should not be abandoned because of financial imbalance.
“If your wife earns N1 million a month while you earn N100,000, don’t expect her to use her N1 million to take care of the family, he told the congregation, You can split your N100,000 and give her N50,000. She will value your N50,000 more than her N1 million,’’ he said.
According to the cleric, the value of money in marriage is not measured by its size but by the intention and sacrifice behind it.
“That N50,000 from you carries more weight,” Enenche stressed “It shows care, it shows responsibility, it shows leadership. It tells your wife that you are not leaving the burden on her shoulders.”
He urged husbands to deliberately give a portion of their income to their wives, no matter how small it may seem.
“If you earn N100,000, divide it. Give your wife N50,000 or N60,000, That money will mean more to her than the N1 million she earns by herself,’’ he said.
Enenche added that such gestures strengthen emotional bonds and deepen respect in marriage.
“When a man shows responsibility even with little, it builds love and honour in the home,” he noted. “Promotion will come, increase will come, but character must come first.”
The pastor warned that abandoning responsibility because a wife earns more could damage the foundation of the family.
“Don’t say, ‘She has money, let her handle it, he cautioned,That mindset weakens leadership and weakens the home,’’ he said
The message has since generated mixed reactions on social media. While some praised Enenche for promoting accountability and dignity among husbands, others questioned the practicality of the advice in today’s harsh economic climate, where many households depend on combined incomes to survive.